There is a distinctive pattern that I have observed throughout my years as a holistic health consultant. People are constantly seeking, not just to heal or be healthy, but to be “perfect”. As if that is an actual reality and attainable goal. This kind of thought process creates a certain degree of stress (often too much to bear without getting your physical body sick) and unrealistic ideals that often end up in self disappointment, insecurities, illness and, ultimately, in the various expressions of the experience of fear.
This got me thinking about the human design (as always my favorite pastime) and the matrix of the reality in which we live. I realized that it is imperative to share (as HLife continues to do with its conscious educational efforts) a key idea: In this reality, perfection is imperfection. In other words, if you live in this third level of existence, guess what? Perfection (the way we think of it) does not exist and is not a real attainable goal. My realization has been that, rather than aim for perfection, we must know and understand our nature as human beings (who we are, how we work,) embrace our imperfections, and MASTER our “machinery” – be the masters and commanders of our own selves. Read More…
You say you wear your heart on your sleeve, we say you wear your heart where it belongs – inside your chest. There is a reason you have ribs, lungs, skin and all the stuff that cushions the heart: It is delicate, and it should be protected. Because it is the motor that keeps your body, and your energy, running. It keeps you alive – physically, emotionally and otherwise. And nobody should have the ability to tamper with that. It is up to you to open your heart to SOMEONE THAT DESERVES IT – whether in romantic relationships, or any other kind of relationship. Don’t wear it on your sleeve. That’s where your arm belongs. ORDER.
Tired of the bs you find in the dating scene nowadays? Do you feel a bit lost and over the whole thing, but still hope that the next relationship might be the one? Without guidance, being single and out in the dating world can be a little confusing. But bad experiences, misunderstandings, wasting yours and others’ time can all be avoided by simply paying attention to what we call RED FLAGS.
In order to be alert for red flags (and life in general), it is imperative that we develop three things ourselves first: the ability to be present, good listening skills, and the courage to ask the right questions. Read More…
Have you heard of the saying, “it’s better to be alone than in bad company”? This is one my mottos. Although I am happily married, I’m constantly talking to and advising women over 30 on how to find love and maintain a healthy relationship. Now more than ever, there are a lot more single women over 30 and although they are fabulous, they still approach love like they were back in the 1900s. These women aren’t spinsters, in fact, they are highly intelligent, gorgeous, independent women who are not looking to settle. Times have changed. I’m here to tell you that we are not living in the 1900’s anymore, that there is nothing wrong with you, that some women at this very time are divorced from unhappy marriages…and some are still in unfulfilled, dead-end marriages. That is not love and it’s certainly not what you want. Read More…
As women get older, we go through major changes, like menopause. We are all aware of the physical alterations our moms go through with age, but today we want to generate awareness about something deeper that is also taking place and is not discussed as much: the emotional implications of aging.
It’s a very difficult thing to look in the mirror one day and see a face that you don’t recognize. Crow’s feet, wrinkles around the mouth, spots, gray hair – all of these physical modifications replace previously flawless skin, bright eyes and lusciously thick hair. At the same time, you feel limited, because your mind remains intact (if you’re healthy) or even improves with age as you accumulate more knowledge and self-understanding, yet your body deteriorates as matter must. Even if you are aware of this happening, it is still a frustrating thing to go through. Read More…
Everyone wants love, but not everyone seems to find it. If we have not yet found love, it is a sign that we have some work to do internally. We are walking magnets, attracting all that we are. So, if we are not attracting love, that is because we are not at a frequency of love.
A good starting point to find what you’re looking for is to look at what you are attracting. If you’re attracting loss, it means that your life, the way you are conducting it, is in a frequency of loss. If you attract lack, it is because your life is lacking. My question for you is: Who creates your life? And the answer is obvious: You do. You make your life the way you choose to. There’s no blaming God (the Universe), or parents, or anyone else on this one. You are all grown up, no longer under your parents’ care. You are no longer a kid; you’ve left home and now it is you that is in the driver’s seat of this thing called Your Life. Read More…
When we saw Professor Thomas J. Scheff teaching about emotions on UCTV, we knew we had to talk to him. A prolific author whose books include Microsociology, Emotions and Violence, Bloody Revenge, Emotions and the Social Bond, and Easy Rider, among others, Scheff is Professor Emeritus of Sociology at the University of California, Santa Barbara and an expert on emotions and social psychology. He is also a wonderful human being whose sense of humor permeates his teachings and resonates throughout this interview, where we discuss love, anger, and what he considers the master emotion: shame. Read More…
Nutrition: We now know that spices have antioxidants – oregano and others typically used in the Mediterranean diet – but who’s got the most? According to research published in the Flavour and Fragrance Journal, cloves are king when it comes to these benefits. “Out of the five antioxidant properties tested, cloves had the highest capacity to give off hydrogen, reduced lipid peroxidation well, and was the best iron reducer”, said Juana Fernandez-Lopez, one of the authors of the study. The researchers hope that the high antioxidant properties of this and other spices will make the food industry consider them for usage in preserving food, instead of using synthetic chemicals that cause toxicity and other side effects. But, until then, you can just make some clove tea for yourself and enjoy the taste as well as the benefits. Read More…
Psychology: Looks like Trevor McKinney was right – paying it forward does work. Much in like the 2000 film with Kevin Spacey and Helen Hunt, a study done by UC San Diego and Harvard has now provided laboratory evidence that cooperative behavior is contagious and that it spreads from person to person. As illustrated by the experiment where strangers played a game, when people benefit from kindness, they “pay it forward” by helping others who were not originally involved, and this creates a cascade of cooperation that influences dozens more in a social network. “The flow of good and desirable properties like ideas, love and kindness is required for human social networks to endure,” said Nicholas Christakis, co-author of the study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. “In turn, networks are required for such properties to spread. Humans form social networks because the benefits of a connected life outweigh the costs.” Read More…
Valentine’s Day photo courtesy of Warner Bros Pictures
Can a movie help you lower your carbon footprint? According to the star-studded cast of the romantic comedy Valentine’s Day, the answer is yes. During an HLife interview, actors Ashton Kutcher, Jessica Alba, Jamie Foxx, Jessica Biel, Julia Roberts, Jennifer Garner and Shirley MacLaine weren’t at all shy about answering questions about health, romance, the difference between men and women, V-Day plans, and, of course, the eco-conscious Warner Brothers movie set. Read More…
