Life is an ongoing learning experience, and it is pretty interesting to view dating the same way. One way to learn a lot about yourself during the dating process is by really observing new people that come into your life. By observing, I mean really taking a close look: Instead of getting emotionally or physically involved off the bat, the idea is to have an actual conversation – or several – get to know the person that life has positioned at your same time and space, and see what it is about this being that you are supposed to learn. To do this, you can use a technique we here at HLife like to call “the man in the mirror”. Read More…
Tired of the bs you find in the dating scene nowadays? Do you feel a bit lost and over the whole thing, but still hope that the next relationship might be the one? Without guidance, being single and out in the dating world can be a little confusing. But bad experiences, misunderstandings, wasting yours and others’ time can all be avoided by simply paying attention to what we call RED FLAGS.
In order to be alert for red flags (and life in general), it is imperative that we develop three things ourselves first: the ability to be present, good listening skills, and the courage to ask the right questions. Read More…
Have you heard of the saying, “it’s better to be alone than in bad company”? This is one my mottos. Although I am happily married, I’m constantly talking to and advising women over 30 on how to find love and maintain a healthy relationship. Now more than ever, there are a lot more single women over 30 and although they are fabulous, they still approach love like they were back in the 1900s. These women aren’t spinsters, in fact, they are highly intelligent, gorgeous, independent women who are not looking to settle. Times have changed. I’m here to tell you that we are not living in the 1900’s anymore, that there is nothing wrong with you, that some women at this very time are divorced from unhappy marriages…and some are still in unfulfilled, dead-end marriages. That is not love and it’s certainly not what you want. Read More…
Expressing what you feel is imperative for health. This can be interpreted two ways: Expressing yourself, period (as in how you dress, how you decorate your environment or what you produce artistically, for example), and expressing yourself in conversation/interaction with others. Both are important for your health.
Expressing ourselves creatively and expressing ourselves to an audience are two very basic forms of communication. Here, we’re going to discuss what we call interpersonal (person-to-person) communication. Read More…
As women get older, we go through major changes, like menopause. We are all aware of the physical alterations our moms go through with age, but today we want to generate awareness about something deeper that is also taking place and is not discussed as much: the emotional implications of aging.
It’s a very difficult thing to look in the mirror one day and see a face that you don’t recognize. Crow’s feet, wrinkles around the mouth, spots, gray hair – all of these physical modifications replace previously flawless skin, bright eyes and lusciously thick hair. At the same time, you feel limited, because your mind remains intact (if you’re healthy) or even improves with age as you accumulate more knowledge and self-understanding, yet your body deteriorates as matter must. Even if you are aware of this happening, it is still a frustrating thing to go through. Read More…
Everyone wants love, but not everyone seems to find it. If we have not yet found love, it is a sign that we have some work to do internally. We are walking magnets, attracting all that we are. So, if we are not attracting love, that is because we are not at a frequency of love.
A good starting point to find what you’re looking for is to look at what you are attracting. If you’re attracting loss, it means that your life, the way you are conducting it, is in a frequency of loss. If you attract lack, it is because your life is lacking. My question for you is: Who creates your life? And the answer is obvious: You do. You make your life the way you choose to. There’s no blaming God (the Universe), or parents, or anyone else on this one. You are all grown up, no longer under your parents’ care. You are no longer a kid; you’ve left home and now it is you that is in the driver’s seat of this thing called Your Life. Read More…
Single Ladies: What are you doing? Literally, what are you doing at this moment, today, with your lives? Are you dreading the upcoming V-Day? Or are you too busy living your life to have even noticed it?
Here’s a suggestion, in no uncertain terms, because we don’t sugarcoat it for you here at HLife: Instead of thinking about a day that will come and go, LIVE YOUR LIFE. Live it to the fullest, now. Do the things you dream of doing “someday” TODAY. Travel. Write. Climb that mountain. Start that business. Conquer yourself. Get informed and make the world a better place by treating yourself better. Change your attitude toward Mother Nature. None of this can happen unless you make it happen. Read More…
Dear HLife: What’s the Recipe for Romance in a Long-term Relationship?
Dear HLifer,
People have a tendency to think that, in a beginning relationship, or one that has lasted only a few months, it is easier to be romantic because everything is so new and undiscovered. This is the kind of thinking that sets people up for failure and disappointment. Here is the problem: In general, many people’s view of romance is limited, probably due to ideas from TV and film. Some think romance is sex; some seem to think that if there are no candles or food involved, romance is non-existent; others think that romance can only be experienced away from your everyday life (like during a trip or while taking a vacation). To keep the romance alive in a long-term relationship, this old mentality needs an update. Read More…
Today is a special day for me because it is my birthday, but for everyone else on the planet, February 1st marks the beginning of something else that is equally as wonderful: Love Month.
It might be awards season for Hollywood and heart health awareness month for the American Heart Association, but as is evident by the red and pink displays all over the supermarkets and other stores, February is the month we celebrate love in the form of Valentine’s Day. Read More…
Holidays are made of traditions new and old and, in a specific group of people, holiday traditions are generally kept and made by one driving force. In our family, that force of nature is called Mery Paz. Mery is our mother, and when it comes to Christmas, she may as well be Will Ferrell in Elf (cut to the scene where the store manager mentions that Santa is coming to the store the next day. Will Ferrell (as Buddy the Elf): “SAAAAAANTAAAAAA!!!!”) You get my point. Read More…
