Single Ladies: What are you doing? Literally, what are you doing at this moment, today, with your lives? Are you dreading the upcoming V-Day? Or are you too busy living your life to have even noticed it?
Here’s a suggestion, in no uncertain terms, because we don’t sugarcoat it for you here at HLife: Instead of thinking about a day that will come and go, LIVE YOUR LIFE. Live it to the fullest, now. Do the things you dream of doing “someday” TODAY. Travel. Write. Climb that mountain. Start that business. Conquer yourself. Get informed and make the world a better place by treating yourself better. Change your attitude toward Mother Nature. None of this can happen unless you make it happen. more …
Dear HLife: What’s the Recipe for Romance in a Long-term Relationship?
Dear HLifer,
People have a tendency to think that, in a beginning relationship, or one that has lasted only a few months, it is easier to be romantic because everything is so new and undiscovered. This is the kind of thinking that sets people up for failure and disappointment. Here is the problem: In general, many people’s view of romance is limited, probably due to ideas from TV and film. Some think romance is sex; some seem to think that if there are no candles or food involved, romance is non-existent; others think that romance can only be experienced away from your everyday life (like during a trip or while taking a vacation). To keep the romance alive in a long-term relationship, this old mentality needs an update. more …
Today is a special day for me because it is my birthday, but for everyone else on the planet, February 1st marks the beginning of something else that is equally as wonderful: Love Month.
It might be awards season for Hollywood and heart health awareness month for the American Heart Association, but as is evident by the red and pink displays all over the supermarkets and other stores, February is the month we celebrate love in the form of Valentine’s Day. more …
Holidays are made of traditions new and old and, in a specific group of people, holiday traditions are generally kept and made by one driving force. In our family, that force of nature is called Mery Paz. Mery is our mother, and when it comes to Christmas, she may as well be Will Ferrell in Elf (cut to the scene where the store manager mentions that Santa is coming to the store the next day. Will Ferrell (as Buddy the Elf): “SAAAAAANTAAAAAA!!!!”) You get my point. more …
I often encounter individuals thirsty for what they call “love”. Everyone wants love, someone to share his life with, someone to complete hers. The problem is, most people’s idea or concept of love is distorted (see post “What Is Love?”.) In my observation, and generally speaking (not naming any names!) the main three reasons people get into a relationship are: 1) They are “hot” for one another (passion) 2) Convenience (status, money, looks, “good on paper”, superficial things,) 3) They are lonely, and something is better then nothing, right? Wrong. Obviously, you have to be attracted to the person, but you also have to know (and be honest with yourself) if the attraction is all you have. Attraction is a must, but it’s not all, and most certainly not enough. It may be an ingredient of a relationship, but can we make an amazing meal/recipe with just one ingredient? Didn’t think so. The key here is being in the right relationship, for the right reasons. But what is a “right relationship”? And what are the “right reasons”? more …
As you all know, here at HLife we don’t sugarcoat things. We tell it like it is. So, let’s get right to it and discuss something that is on the minds of many, if not all: love. First, lets take a quick look at what love is not:
- -Love is not a need. Love is not a need because we all have it inside ourselves. Love can be shared, given or received, but it cannot be needed. If you view love as a need, this means you have not recognized the love inside you or tapped into it. We all have love inside of ourselves, but if we identify it as a need, if we think we need it from the outside, we will never be able to share, give or receive it because we will be desperately trying to compensate for something we lack instead of being in a harmonious, joyous, appreciative (and therefore loving) state. Looking for love outside of yourself when you have not recognized it inside of you first is going about things backwards. Love always begins within you. We cannot love someone or something if there is no love inside of ourselves. By the same token, how can anyone love us if we don’t love ourselves, if we don’t deem ourselves worthy of love? So, the first step is to recognize that we have love, inside, then fall in love with ourselves (not in an narcissistic egotistical way, but by recognizing and appreciating who we are in all of our splendor) and then start loving ourselves. At that level of self-awareness and self-love, we will know and understand that love is something that we’ll never need, because we always have it; but, because you have it, it is something you can give to others without any expectation. You ARE love. Be love and by the law of attraction, you will attract that into your life. more …
